GUYS! In case you hadn't heard through the grapevine.... We are a family of FOUR! EEEK!
Just 2 days after Christmas, we got an email from our social worker
at our local agency asking us to call her ASAP. There was an exclamation
point after her request to call her, so of course our blood pressure
went through the roof with excitement and anticipation! After getting in
touch with her we found out that our profile had been shown to a
birthmother that had given birth one week ago and that she had chosen us
to be the parents! We were totally shocked as this was totally out of
the blue and we had absolutely no idea there were any impending
situations at this agency.
The social worker asked if we could meet with the birthmother on
Monday and that she would have until Tuesday to decide if she wanted to
move forward with us. And if she did, then the baby girl would probably
be ready to leave the hospital at the beginning of the new year (maybe
Friday or Saturday). So, we scheduled a meeting for Monday and held our
breaths since we knew it wouldn’t be an “official match” until then.
On Monday, December 29th (our 7th Anniversary!), we got a baby-sitter
for the buddy and met with the birthmother. The meeting went really
well and by the end of it, we were told that not only was she ready to
move forward with us, but that they had found out that morning that the
baby girl was ready to be released the following morning to go home! The
birthmother wanted her baby to go home with family and not go into
temporary cradle care, so it was now up to us if we were ready to bring
home a daughter the next day.
Considering that we had only found out about this situation just 2
days prior, we were pretty much in total shock! But, of course, that
shock was mixed with pure excitement and some anxiety as well. We headed
to the hospital to meet the sweet baby girl, got some instruction from
the NICU nurses, and decided we definitely wanted to be the parents who
brought her home the following day.
However, there was no time to sit and appreciate the excitement and
blessing of this new development. My biggest concern was how unprepared
we were to bring a baby home! Thankfully, with the help of family,
Monday night we began the process of cleaning out Dave's office,
and taking the car seat and Pack & Play down from the attic. We were
up until at least 1am talking about girl names we liked and went to bed
exhausted, overwhelmed, but crazily excited.
So, Tuesday morning, December 30th, we made the 1 hour drive to the
hospital where our daughter was waiting for us to pick her up and bring
her home. We decided on a name just in time to sign the adoption
paperwork in the early afternoon and we left the hospital exhausted,
excited, and honestly, in total disbelief. After the craziness of the
past few days, this was when our life would really
begin as a family of four. We cried tears of happiness, nervousness and
honestly, tears of feeling overwhelmed on our drive home. We hadn’t had
time to process what had just happened in the past 3 days and now it was
time to process what it would be like to be home with our new baby and her big brother.
The icing on the cake of this story is that we had gotten a very
meaningful text from a dear friend on Christmas Eve. She knew how
discouraged and sad we were feeling about not yet having our next family
member over the holidays, so she had spent several minutes praying for
us with her kids. She told us that when they were done praying it was
like she heard God say, “It’s not the end of the year yet.” When she
told us this on Christmas Eve we tried to dismiss it as to not get our
hopes up, but texting her the photos of us holding our daughter in the
hospital with the words, “I guess you heard right” was definitely one of
the sweetest ways to let someone know you’re adding a child to your
The amazing thing is that our sweet girl was already 3 days old by
Christmas Eve. On one hand I’m sad that she is missing from our
Christmas pictures this year. But, just to think, we were sad that we
were missing our next child from our Christmas celebration, yet she had
already arrived and was just waiting for us to get to her. And we are
so, so grateful that it was us who were chosen to be her parents.