Friday, April 8, 2011

Timeline of our Story

April 8, 2006 - We met on a blind date!

December 29, 2007- We got married! Our Birth Control method of choice was Natural Family Planning. So, I've never been on birth control pills. Our NFP teacher told us my charts were "beautiful" and she'd never seen a clearer chart. This led us to believe that getting pregnant would be very easy because my ovulation looked so nice on a chart.

May 2010- Started TTC, a little terrified because none of our friends or family members were yet and were afraid of being left out! So, we took a long break until our friends were in the same place. If I were to regret anything about our journey, that would be it. Now, many of these friends have babies.

December 2010- Started TTC again, but not paying much attention to the details. We were lazy with charting because we thought it would be easy without it.

February 2011- REALLY started TTC, charting and reading all I could related to fertility to be SURE we were doing everything "right." Quickly got concerned because it wasn't happening right away.

April 2011- I started acupuncture, not only for fertility, but for anxiety related to infertility.

May 2011- Dave got a SA that revealed we have "little to no chance of natural conception." Because we had talked about adoption early on in our marriage as a plan for after having biological children, this becomes more of an option and we begin to look into agencies, countries, etc. However, we also decided to have Dave try the natural route to help with the issue and so he took supplements and also did acupuncture.

August 2011- Dave got retested and his numbers were much improved! Enough for us to try one IUI procedure. It was a BFN and we were crushed. Natural conception was still pretty much out of the equation and we had no interest in further fertility treatments. We attended the Catholic Charities informational meeting.

October 2011- We began the home study process! Paperwork, paperwork, paperwork... and meetings too!

December 6th, 2011- Our official home study visit was complete and we passed! We officially became a "waiting family!"

January 2012- We signed up with another TN agency as well.
We also applied for Adoption Grants from 4 non-profit groups.

April 6th 2012- We have officially been waiting for 4 months... no news yet...

May 4, 2012 - We received an email that a birthmother had chosen us! Not knowing much about her we were on pins and needs all weekend wondering if she would be a good fit for us. We found out the baby was due May 26th! Without much time to plan I still get 5 baby books from the library. :-)

May 6, 2012- Found out the birthmother was having a girl! We also found out she was healthy and seemed like a really good match for us. Wahoo!! We planned to meet her on May 14th, so we weren't really telling anyone IRL until that meeting when it would be more "official."

May 13th, 2012 (Mother's Day)- While telling my (Elizabeth's) family that we were chosen by a birthmother and were planning to meet her the next day we got the phone call that she had given birth and it was a BOY!  We were to get the necessities together, drive to Memphis and pick out a name first thing Monday morning! We obviously went into total excitement/panic/flurry mode!!! We didn't have any time to prepare at all! INSTANT maternity leave time!

May 14th, 2012- We met the birthmother and her baby. Both sweet as can be. Warning to potential adoptive parents: The hospital is WAY MORE emotional than you plan it to be no matter how much you feel prepared for it!

May 15, 2012- We brought home our beautiful and precious son, baby N. He is a true gift from God and we are so grateful for him each day... here begins our launch into parenthood!

December 10th, 2012- We legally became the buddy's parents! We even have the birth certificate to prove it. :-)
(When the buddy turned about 5/6 months we TTC again because we wanted him to have a sibling close in age.)

April, 2103
- We saw a new RE hoping to try a few IUIs, but instead discovered Dave's low testosterone. Dave began a series of different drugs to help get this in balance and this consisted of about 6 months of trying different things, getting more blood tests and semen analysis than we'd like to count.

July 2013- An improved semen analysis! We thought we were on the right direction, so continued the drug protocol and hoped for an numbers good enough to try IUIs in the fall.

November, 2103- After improved blood work we were very disappointed to discover that his most recent semen analysis was the worst yet. We decided to follow the new recommendations of the RE, but were told we would most likely need IVF w/ICSI in order to conceive. Feeling tired out of this process we thought about when to start pursing another adoption.

December 2013- We started the process of renewing our home study to adopt again!

March 1, 2014- Our home study is completed and we are officially a 'waiting family' at 2 different agencies.

October 2014- Spoke with our adoption social worker at our busier agency and were told our profile has been shown at least seven times and just hasn't been chosen yet. We are discouraged but pray that another child will join our family soon.

December 27, 2014- Got the call that a birthmother chose us and her daughter was already born and in the NICU and would be ready to come home in a week! Effectively freak out.

December 29, 2014- On our 7th anniversary we met our daughter and her birthmom. It's a match! Sweet P was ready to go home the next day, so we had about 12 hours to prepare for her (and somehow also sleep).

November, 2015- Knowing that our insurance would cover one round of IVF, we met with an RE 2 hours away who was in network. We loved him and decided to make the 2 hour drive to work with him, and have insurance cover the procedure.

April 1, 2016- Start daily IVF shots. Drive 2 hours every few days at 5am for appointments to check on follicle growth. Feel very nervous but excited.

April 14, 2016- Egg Retreival! 10 eggs were retrieved

April 19, 2016 - Embryo transfer day- We had 2 good-looking embryos. We transfer the highest quality and freeze the other one (and then one more very mediocre one on Day 7)

April 27th, 2016- Pregnant! BETA of 71.

May 16, 2016- Saw our baby on the ultrasound with a heartbeat flickering away.  3 months of joy and anticipation followed. Found out at 18 weeks we were having a girl along with a healthy ultrasound.

August 10th, 2016- Got a cervical polyp removed despite requesting it to not be removed. More on this to come in time...

August 16, 2016- Water broke- found out at Vanderbilt Hospital and sobbed. Chose to do home bedrest and pray baby stays in until 24 weeks when hospital bedrest would start

August 26th, 2016- She didn't make it to that 24-wk mark. Miriam Anne both entered and left the world at 7:11pm. Our hearts are broken. She was dearly loved and will continue to be loved and missed every day of our lives.